tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8945403711603961297.post3637284033710572135..comments2023-09-30T08:20:13.972-04:00Comments on One Egg Please: Two Steps Forward...Two Steps BackR.http://www.blogger.com/profile/09730805885076066358noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8945403711603961297.post-47591731163855319792010-07-12T15:54:58.964-04:002010-07-12T15:54:58.964-04:00I think all of your ups and downs are natural and ...I think all of your ups and downs are natural and part of a grieving/healing process. These things take time. My DH also refuses to discuss next steps. Maybe it's just a man thing (or an optimist thing in my own DH's case). Thinking of you.Auntie Emhttp://ccrmjourney.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8945403711603961297.post-89032767422285969952010-07-12T14:32:05.597-04:002010-07-12T14:32:05.597-04:00For some reason, men are not able to think about t...For some reason, men are not able to think about the future as much as we do.<br /><br />We saw Avatar last night, I know, most people have seen it already. What a great movie and I just realized there are no babies or kids in it. Nice break from reality. Anyway, thinking of you and hoping things move along quickly.<br /><br />TAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8945403711603961297.post-3098033189885699302010-07-12T10:48:47.106-04:002010-07-12T10:48:47.106-04:00(HUGS). Wishing things were easier.(HUGS). Wishing things were easier.lastchanceivfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14139576318784337837noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8945403711603961297.post-29516837634890420542010-07-12T10:00:31.549-04:002010-07-12T10:00:31.549-04:00It's not regression - it is part of the proces...It's not regression - it is part of the process of haling. Some day are better than others, and that is ok. <br /><br />And struggling to move on versus wanting to remember, it is hard to find that balance. But you will, with time. I hope your appointment goes well tomorrow.Piehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07331859341593997811noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8945403711603961297.post-59126744247941877312010-07-12T09:24:18.575-04:002010-07-12T09:24:18.575-04:00I truly hope you don't need a GC but if you do...I truly hope you don't need a GC but if you do it sounds like you're getting to a good place with it. Sorry you're still having cramps....Mel.https://www.blogger.com/profile/17095162408557764223noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8945403711603961297.post-59663839759855775272010-07-12T08:00:25.300-04:002010-07-12T08:00:25.300-04:00"I started thinking about how I would bond wi..."I started thinking about how I would bond with the child, and if I would be able to. I realize that it is similar to adoption in the sense that I will have no connection to this child, but will still be able to love it as all adoptive parents do."<br />I am giving birth today to twins, via Donor Egg. This has been my fear all along, that I would not be able to bond with them because I have no genetic connection to them. But you know what? They're still from my husband's sperm and they're MY BABIES. They will never have known another mother - I am their mother. The same is true for you. Even though you will not carry them and it is not your egg, YOU are their mother. They are your husband's genetic children, making them closer to you than an adoptive child. Also, the adoptive child had known another mother - this child will know only you. Try to look on the bright side...it is closer to you than adoption, more legally binding, and thank God this technology is available for us at this point in time. It is a blessing and you will be their mother. much love to you.Kara's Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07318794767415969151noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8945403711603961297.post-86738484756927099542010-07-11T23:06:38.468-04:002010-07-11T23:06:38.468-04:00Just sending hugs R...REALLY hoping that GC will n...Just sending hugs R...REALLY hoping that GC will not have to be an option for you but naturally we always think and plan for next step as it does seem to make things feel better when the worst does happen. If it happens...we'll be right here with you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8945403711603961297.post-5696054833859500382010-07-11T22:03:39.974-04:002010-07-11T22:03:39.974-04:00i know exactly how you feel. the days after the gi...i know exactly how you feel. the days after the girls were born i ached, i bled, i expressed milk. but i felt so close to them-that was all for them-that i hated when it ended, even though it meant that i was healing. i didn't want to heal or feel better. i wanted to hurt because that meant my girls weren't so far away. im so sorry that you are learning what that feels like and that you have gotten this news that could possibly lead you to have to grieve one more loss along this path. i don't believe you will need a GC after all, but i know what you mean about having to know how it would work out and what steps would have to be taken if you did.<br />love to you, its so hard to have to sneak away to cry and then re-join the party as if nothing ever happened. i have done that more times than i would like to as well. but dont you think for a moment that i or any of your other supporters will ever forget what you had or what you lost.<br />love to you<br />xoxo<br />lisbibchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13696528943928321710noreply@blogger.com