Sunday, October 17, 2010

Best Birthday Present

Yesterday was better than expected. I slept in (a rarity), went for brunch with A. and a girlfriend, and spent the afternoon getting mani/pedis and eating frozen yogurt. If that was all that happened, it would have been perfect. While sitting with feet in the hot water I got an email from the agency asking me how I feel about a 28 year old mother of two. My first reply was, "where does she live"? I decided that I for so many reasons I want to be actively invovled in this process and I want someone younger than me and the first two profiles that I was sent didn't fit my criteria. This one does!

She seems perfect. She has been a surrogate once before so she 'gets it', already has two kids of her own, so really understands pregnancy and the reasons why I want to be involved AND she lives 1.5 hours away (by car). This way, I can be at all milestone appointments and even visit when I want, but don't have to worry about running into her in awkward moments throughout my life. I could not have asked for a better situation.

Of course we are still focused on our FET, but if I have learned anything from the last four years, it is that we need to have a back-up plan in place. Now we do. A. and I are both excited.

-R.

12 comments:

  1. She sounds great! Happy birthday weekend!!

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  2. That is SO wonderful R! So great that you have found "the one". I know if I was in your shoes she would fit the bill perfectly. I'd want to be at every single appointment too. Still hopeful for your upcoming FET but pleased you have plan C in place.

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  3. I'm so glad you had a great birthday! Sounds like you found a great GC if you end up needing her. I'm still excited about your FET too....

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  4. Happy Birthday! She sounds perfect! I hope and pray this FET works out but it's good to hear you're moving on with a back up plan just in case.

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  5. Wow, that is wonderful timing!!! I'm so happy to hear that you feel comfortable with this plan "just in case," although I hope this FET will work!

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  6. Happiest of birthdays!!! I'm so glad you have a great sounding back up plan!

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  7. She sounds perfect. So great to know you this option.

    T

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  8. I'm soooo happy you had a wonderful birthday, R. You're right...she sounds perfect!!

    T.

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  9. Now that is a gift. A nice round package of peace of mind to rest on.

    Exactly the frame of mind you want to be in for the FET.

    Excellent!

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  10. Happy Birthday! That sounds like a wonderful birthday present, though I'm still hoping you won't need her. But it's great to know you have that option.

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  11. Great birthday news. Happy birthday R! I'm glad that you have a great plan in place and a great back up plan in place.
    You are already a mother in my mind. A great mother. Your baby will find you.

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