The thoughts of the WTF conversation have been on constant replay in my head for two days. I keep hearing the same two words over and over and over again, gestational carrier. How did I get to this place? I am not a place where I can process the effects of using a carrier in combination with donor eggs...yet. For now, I can only focus on the logistics and I am sure the emotional elements will come out in later posts.
Thank you for your comments and suggestions after the WTF. I have read them all and have taken your words into consideration. As usual, I was prepared for the conversation with a list of questions, however I forgot to ask some of them, including the one about the endometrial biopsy. I plan to discuss this in more detail when I hopefully go for the hysteroscopy.
A. and I have talked about this and we both are on board with trying again with my uterus. I am not convinced that it wasn't an embryo issue that caused the miscarriage and so depending on how the next transfer goes, I may continue to try with my body. But, I do need to understand the gestational carrier process. I am a textbook type A personality and so I need to know what could be a realistic outcome for me.
I have spent the last two days reaching my options. I have found three agencies so far.
1. Canadian Surrogacy Options
2. Surrogacy in Canada Online
3. Surrogacy Options
I am really confused about this process. Not only is it HUGELY expensive, but I can not really understand how it works. Egg donation is simple compared to this. The clinic had a database and it was easy. Not emotionally, but practically. This seems so complicated. I need some help to understand this.
In just two days, I am swarmed with questions, I am hoping some of you more experienced ladies can guide me a bit.
If you have had any dealings with these agencies please share your experiences with me good or bad. I am really interested in the process for selecting a surrogate and the timeline for doing so. I am also struggling with the idea of having a carrier who lives away from me. I want to be a part of the doctor appointments because I need to feel connected, is this even a possibility? I guess I just need a place to start and to know that this option is ok, because right now I am totally freaking out about it.