I am starting my day with this. I literally am so mad, I could scream. I hate the just relax and it will happen speech.
I was relaxed when I first started TTCing four years ago. I was 27 fucking years old and had no ideas of the cruel world of IF.
I was relaxed when I met my local RE for the first time. (Ok, the testing scared the shit out of me, but the actual appointment I was pretty relaxed).
I was relaxed when I did 'timed intercourse' after one round of Clomid and Pur.egon injections helped me get one itty bitty follicle (I thought that was amazing).
I was relaxed after my first IUI when my RE was so overly confident it would work that I smiled all the way home.
I was relaxed after my first IVF retrieval when the RE and nursing staff sang me happy birthday (even though I was totally hopped up on drugs and still in major pain because they didn't kick in on time).
I was relaxed after my phone consult with CCRM where I was told that I had a good chance of conceiving with my eggs.
I was relaxed on the transfer table of my donor egg cycle.
I am no longer relaxed. Relaxing did not accomplish anything for me. Infertility is a disease. Geez, what does an IF gal need to do to get recognized?