My friend Lis just found out that her husband is going away for several months. Please go over and give her some support.
Monday is going to be a big day. It is my hysteroscopy. I am so hoping and praying and hoping and praying (repeat this another thousand or so times) that everything will turn up normal and that there is no reason to think that my uterus was at fault for the miscarriage. I really want to try again to carry a pregnancy. I want to experience the movement, the bonding and almost all parts of bringing a baby into the world (not so keen on the painful labour part). I hope that meeting with the dr face-to-face he will have some more ideas about what went wrong and what we can do differently for next time. Please let there be a next time.
On the one hand, I want a different protocol. I need to change some of the variables, but then I get scared. It worked. Just not for long enough. Why change the protocol? I am just so torn because I don't know what caused the miscarriage and since I will never know, I just have to trust the medical experts and that is why they make the BIG bucks!
Monday will also be the fifth time to Denver in the last 13 months. That is a whole lot of Denver time. Last summer I was so filled with hope as I headed out to Colorado and now I am filled with fear. I truly believed that I would be in a different place after my ODWU last July. In a way I am, I am grieved the loss of my genetically related children and have moved forward with DE, I am just not ready to grieve the loss of my uterus.
Monday will also be my sister's 18+ week ultrasound. I can't believe that we are in this place already. She has decided to find out the sex of the baby and this terrifies me. As the oldest child and grandchild, I had always pictured my first child a girl to follow in my footsteps. If she brings the first girl to the family, I may break even more than I already am. My dreams are crumbling around me and I can't do anything to take the pain away. Day to day, I am handling this pregnancy ok, but in my alone time, I just want to explode. It just isn't fair.
-R.
You're right, nothing about this is fair! Want me to send blue vibes her way?
ReplyDeleteI hope the hysteroscopy shows nothing is wrong and hope it's a quick recovery too! Sending lots of hugs your way!!
Hey Reesa,
ReplyDeleteSo so sorry. I can only imagine your sister's pregnancy has been an excruciating experience for you. We have another commonality...I too am the oldest child and oldest grandchild on both sides. So the race is on that I'll get to provide the first grandbaby (but not the genetic line...that's a whole other issue). So to have the opportunity taken away would also bring me tremendous grief.
I pray that you will get another chance...as I mentioned before my fingers are purple they are crossed so tightly. Hoping Dr. Sch will work his magic for you...
Hugs R...
R., I am praying for good news for you on Monday. You are long overdue for some good news. I know you've had issues with your lining, but has there ever been any indication that you may have a problem with your uterus? I'm hoping this is just Dr. Schoolcraft being extra cautious.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry. I can only imagine how much your sister's pregnancy compounds all of the grief you're feeling. :-(
Thinking good thoughts for you! I know it is hard, but you should be happy for your sister and glad that she doesn't have to go through the same crap as you. Misery does love company though.
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Sorry I haven't been commenting lately. I have been following, just in the few minutes of breaks I take throughout the work day(s). So no commenting. Anyway, I just wanted to say that I'm glad things are going better with you and your husband and I am here rooting for you. Saying goodbye to the genetic link is a huge deal and I really hope you don't have to give up on carrying as well. I want this for you so much and I hope it all works out. Also, FWIW, I would be SWIMMING in despair and envy if I were in your shoes regarding your sister's pregnancy - I think your feelings are 100% normal (and "justified", if that's possible).
ReplyDeletebig hugs
ReplyDeleteI know how tough your sister's pregnancy can be after a loss. It happened to me, too, and it was just horrible. It still is horrible!
ReplyDeleteI hope that your hysteroscopy goes well. If you have any questions, let me know! I've had a few. :)