Monday, August 2, 2010

The Wedding

I know you were probably on pins and needles dying to hear the long drama about the wedding (ha ha), but I will tell you anyway and then never speak of it again. It was beautiful. My cousin was absolutely glowing and I couldn't have been happier for her and her new husband. The day went off without a hitch, which is exactly what you want on your wedding day. Everything from the weather to flowers to pictures and the such were flawless. What a relief as there were some weather reports of thunderstorms, but luckily all we had was sun shine.

There was a lot of pregnancy talk throughout the day. That was difficult for me. First, at the hairdresser where he saw my sister for the first time. Sis is really good of not initiating the conversation about her pregnancy, but when asked she does reply and her face lights up. I would not expect anything less, but it is still extremely difficult for me. The pg bridesmaid looked amazing. I had a few moments where I had to take a private moment (a few seconds really) and catch my breath because I felt like the wind had been knocked out of me. I pictured how different the day should have been and how cute I had hoped to look. Not in the cards.

The ceremony was literally the longest ceremony of life (and I have been to a lot of weddings). Seriously, I felt like I was standing forever and so did my feet. By the end, they were so sore that they were turning numb and tingling. Immediately after the ceremony I put on flip flops and was great for the rest of night.

My trick of holding a drink at all times was almost flawless. There was one moment where I went to go to the bathroom and it happened. A woman who works with my uncle congratulated me on my news. I informed her with attitude that she had already asked me this (a few weeks earlier) and that it was my sister. She then proceeded to go on and say how she thought it was both of us. My reply was quite rude and I just said something like, No, only her...not me. I then stormed off. Later she found me to apologize and I just said that in the past week many people are confusing me with her and I just can't take it anymore. Whatever, I don't even care.

So then it was back to drinking...heavily. But, I am feeling good this morning. No hangover or anything. It is so amazing to me how your body just remembers how to normal after not indulging for sometime. Maybe the weekly drinking of wine A. and I have been doing this summer helped as well.

All in all it was a beautiful day, but I am really glad that it is over and I can now focus on something else. There is a video clip that I am dying to put up, but I am just waiting for link. I will update the post when I have it.



  1. (((HUGS)))

    I actually HAVE been thinking of you, and wondering how you were holding up. I'm glad it's over, and so proud of you for being a wonderful, supportive sister. I don't know if I could have done as much.


  2. I really was waiting for an update! I'm glad things went so well overall but I'm sorry for all of the pregnancy talk and especially your uncle's co-worker.... Glad you're feeling good today too!

  3. Glad the wedding was nice. Jewish weddings are supposed to be short! Anyway, is it possible that someone let other people know you were pregnant? Maybe she heard it from someone else and that other person should have kept his/her mouth shut. If that is the case, then that person may have neglected to let people know that you had a m/c. Anyway, I have learned to keep my mouth shut and make sure the small number of people I have told keep my secret.


  4. No unfortunately that's not possible. We didn't tell anyone except our parents and they would not have told anyone as they were even more cautious than we were. Oh well, I think she confused me with someone else. I'm trying to get over it as best I can.

  5. I'm glad that you were able to make it through the evening and try to make the best of it. So sorry to hear about the extreme lows of the day, but at least it is over. Hugs to you.

  6. So glad that the wedding is over and went off without a hitch. I am glad you are feeling well after partaking in the adult beverages! I recently was not so lucky! :)

    Also, I came across this website that has some INCREDIBLE ice cream recipes. I don't know if you have seen it, but I immediately thought of you when I saw it. I kinda want to get an ice cream machine again! Here is the link:

  7. R., I'm glad you survived all of the pregnancy talk. Yeah for no hangover!


  8. Being thinking alot about how your weekend went. The weekend after our last m/c I thought I was going to melt into the floor watching a mom dance with her toddler on the dance floor. I stormed out of the room and my MIL and A came rushing after me. It was awful. Glad to read you survived it. Weddings, birthdays, gatherings are getting tougher though and I sympathize. But I know you have been kinda dreading this weekend and glad that it's over and that you came away with some good memories out of it. Talk to you soon...